most everyone is a planner, a problem maker, a schemer. what does it get them? stress, headaches...pain. look, you're your own worst enemy. stop. relax. you're not in control. do you really want to be? what is a "big deal" - what does that mean?

no problem, no worries, do your duty, and go on. breathe, relax. stop it. if you don't, all our heads will explode.